Ex Girlfriend

[Kaneinite]

If a woman tells you that she is enjoying being single right now and for you to wait for her.. she is playing you. She is trying to keep you open as an option while she goes around and tries to find something better. If she really wanted to be in a relationship with you, she would be.

That whole, 'I have never been single' line is just that, a line. I agree with what all the guys say, go find someone else, none of this is worth your time. Once she sees you with another girl, then she will realize what she lost, and will probably come back.. but do you really want to deal with a girl who is playing games with you?

Move on, there is plenty of poon in the world, don't go getting all hung up on one who isn't there for you in the way you want her to be.

Thank YOU and thank you ALL for all the comments! I don't know why I didn't open my eyes to this. She told me to go on with my life and not let me stop her...so I'll do just that. All it amounts to is that we MIGHT get back together whenver she decides to date again and I'm available...the more I think about it the more I question why I want to get back with her...it's gotta be just for the sex...so I think I WILL be moving on.

A girl said tonight at work that she said that she didn't like me and I told her that we just talked last night and she didn't say that and the girl told me that she was just saying what my ex had told her...I don't know whether it was awhile back when we were mean to each other right after we broke up or it's been here recently...and the more and more I think...I don't really care...

 

[swede68]

Good luck to ya Kane. I wouldn't worry about it too much. You're still young and have many opportunities ahead of you. Like Jessie said, there are plenty of other women out there waiting for you. Don't sit around and wait for the ones who toy with your head. Just treat them right, and you will certainly find one who will appreciate/respect you for that.

 

[mindido]

Jessica,

Talk about hitting a nail right on the head! I don't think that could be said any better.

 

[Cobra]

Tell her that you didn't force her to be in a relationship and you can't force her to stay and that you must now remove her from your heart. Might even mention a little hottie you've had your eye on.

When she begins to backup your response is best to be if you ever decide you want to be my girlfriend (not go on a date) that you will consider it but it may be too late.

 

[Kaneinite]

I'm supposed to call her tonight when she gets off work and see if she wants to hang out...but I don't need to do that...I need to do like Cobra said and only hang with her if she's my girlfriend...why give her the keys to the car before she buys it?

Any advice on what to tell her tonight? I'm coming up blank...

 

[Texan]

Man where's Dr. Phil at when you need him

 

[mindido]

Kane,

Errrrrrrrrrrrr!!!! Move on!!!! Call her, tell her you can't make it and go do something else. Reread JessicaJoannes post!

 

[jessicajoanne]

I'm supposed to call her tonight when she gets off work and see if she wants to hang out...but I don't need to do that...I need to do like Cobra said and only hang with her if she's my girlfriend...why give her the keys to the car before she buys it?

Any advice on what to tell her tonight? I'm coming up blank...

Tell her simply that you have other plans. You don't need excuses, you don't need a drawn out explination. She is not your girlfriend, you don't owe her anything. Treat her as you would treat any of your male friends. You don't feel like hanging out with her, then don't.

The most important thing you need to do is establish boundries. More than likely she wants a friendship where you still pine over her and cater to her every need. If you act like she is just another "one of the guys" then she should get the hint.

Basically, you don't have to call her. If she gets pissed, tell her that you don't owe her anything, and that you are just friends. You are allowed to change your mind, and you didn't feel like hanging out.

My advice is to ditch this chick completely. No girl wants to "just be friends".. They are just keeping you under their noses so that if they decide they need you to be their BF again, you are there. You don't need the stress, drama, or confusion that this situation will present. This is only asking for trouble.

 

[Preferred User]

First time I haven't agreed with Min and Jess. Don't call her. DON'T. Whaddaya mean you're "supposed" to call her? Don't call her. If she asks you tomorrow what happened...."I got going on something else. Sorry." End of story. If she doesn't ask you what happened, then you know even more.

Kane, we've all been there. You think you need this girl. You don't...and the sooner you leave her behind and see how much stronger you feel without her, the better.

 

[Kaneinite]

First time I haven't agreed with Min and Jess. Don't call her. DON'T. Whaddaya mean you're "supposed" to call her? Don't call her. If she asks you tomorrow what happened...."I got going on something else. Sorry." End of story. If she doesn't ask you what happened, then you know even more.

Kane, we've all been there. You think you need this girl. You don't...and the sooner you leave her behind and see how much stronger you feel without her, the better.

That sounds really good...

And if she doesn't ask about me not calling it WILL let me know more...

 

[Kaneinite]

I think I'm just gonna move on from her and find someone new and better. I don't know what I was thinking...getting back with that whole mess...nah.

 

[IHateHonda]

Hey Kane.. Your a wrestling fan.. remember when Lita was 'with kane, sorta playing that she liked him, tho she didnt. Toyed with him even tho she knew how he felt. Thats what seems to be goin on in a way. No girl is worth mind games. No girl is worth being toyed with. She knows how you feel. Girls never come clean, with anything(sorry jess, but its true) They know you like them and want something with them so what do they say...'Maybe someday but Right now blah blah blah'. In your head your thinking, sweet i think she diggin me, when the reality is that she really doesnt. Like lita, there will prolly be an Edge around the corner waiting to crush your heart, only it might not be purposly.

And no, never call when you think your 'supposed' to. Screw that. I went through the same thing about 6 years ago, and it was a bunch of horse shit. "Call me later tonight' turns into, ;Hey she wants to talk to me! She must like me!' Its all wrong. She just sayin that to be nice. Shed prolly rather you not call, but because girls can never just come out and tell you whats really up, they toy with your head. You catch on to all of this down the road when you get past this and are with a girl thats wayyy better and doesnt give you as much shit haha.

Remember.. Stay away from your lita. She doesnt deserve you if shes givin you this crap. Your better than that.

 

[son_of_Jordan]

I agree with these guys, either move on or get with her. She's keeping you open for an option just like somebody else we know *ahemovelayandwichsayahem* she knows she's got you by the balls, and that you're still in love with her and want her, so she's keeping you as her ace in the hole so she can use you and abuse you when she wants. She's playing you and probably has three guys on the line she's toying with as well... just move on... find another girl. That's my advice; fortune favors the bold.

 

[Kaneinite]

I ended up talking to her last night and she said that she was trying to date me and all. I told her that I wasn't really wanting a girlfriend right now either, which to be honest...I don't have the time or money for...but she wants me to call her after I get out of school today or come by her house and see if she's home. She seems like she wants to hang out and everything...but wait for us to get back together. Right now I think it'd be best if I stayed single anyway...I don't have any money due to having my car in the shop...I'm paying weekly on it and will for awhile...and I just don't have the time due t school...but I'll be graduating this year...

 

[Preferred User]

"Stop by and see if I'm home"?????? Kane, listen to that. "Stop by and see if I'm home"!!!!!!??? Imagine some other guy telling you about that. You'd tell him to grow a nut.

 

[hut12]

how gay is kaneinite???????? seriously have you read all his posts.. damn
that guy has got some probs.
You can't figure shit out for yourself? Gotta bitch and moan here.

Be a fucking man.

Maybe that is why you have problems with girls.

They see how you are.

 

[jessicajoanne]

how gay is kaneinite???????? seriously have you read all his posts.. damn
that guy has got some probs.
You can't figure shit out for yourself? Gotta bitch and moan here.

Be a fucking man.

Maybe that is why you have problems with girls.

They see how you are.

Wow. For a guy who has lots of sex (see the other thread.. lol).. you sure do have anger issues..

Calm down. No reason to be so mean. This is a happy forum. Porn makes people happy. Be Happy.

 

[Kaneinite]

To update...

I hung out with her last night and we had a long talk and we're definitely getting back together. It's just a matter of when. She didn't want me to leave last night and I could tell. She still has feelings for me and she misses me. I guess some of what you guys say is true but you've really gotta know this girl to understand where I'm coming from. She WAS home and there's no reason whyshe wouldn't be...she just said that to sound like she had things to do and that she actually has a life...when in reality she doesn't. lol

Thanks for all the help. I don't know what's going to happen but I guess I'll post it here when it does. I think we're just going to be close for awhile until we're ready...

 

[Kaneinite]

Well...

I went to work today and a guy that I was working with told me that she said that I was going to be mad at her when I found out what she did last night. So I asked her what was up and she said, "Nothing"

She had told the guy that she didn't feel like talking abou it. I talked to my manager and thought that maybe she had an abortion or something and the kid was mine...something like that...as my friend and I discussed...anyway...I came in at four and my friend came in at two...she left at four so when she went to go out to her car I followed her out and asked her again what was going on and she told me that it wasn't what I was thinking when I talked to the manager...

She told me that it really didn't concern me because she's her own person and she's single...but it had to do with something stupid she did last night and she knew I'd be mad if I found out about it. FYI: She got drunk and was around a bunch of guys..her drinking buddies that she's been hanging out with here recently and getting drunk with. This one guy has stood out. She's been talking about this one guy above them all...her attitude with them all is that they're just friends that she gets drunk with...but with this guy...I think she's into him. I asked her if she liked anyone when we hung out and she said no...but yeah.

Bottom line...I think she fucked the guy after getting drunk...she regrets it ("I did something stupid last night") and knows I'd get mad but doesn't care because she's "single" and "I'm my own person"

Is that what you all get from it?

 

[BigD]

Mate,you've got it bad haven't you?
Treat em mean keep em keen.She wants you to drop round,give her the brush man.Show a bit of sack!!
Shes played you good now move on and have some fun,and dont forget to throw it in her face how much of a good time you're having.